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August is going to be GREAT at Cedar Creek Church!
August 3rd is a big day for Cedar Creek West as our Campus Pastor, Wes Holbrook, will return from Sabbatical and speak live. But that’s not all!
Also that day, Our Kidz Creek Kidz (preschool & elementary) will make a visit to adult worship to share what they have been learning this summer! If that’s not enough, that same day…
Also on August 3rd, all three campuses of Cedar Creek Church will join together at our campus for a New Life Baptism Celebration, starting at 6:00. If you haven’t had the opportunity to sign up to be baptized, have signed up before but was unable to participate or feel like this is your next step in following Jesus, it’s not too late! You can get more information about baptism and sign up to be baptized here. Since we’re having this at our campus, all are invited to stay after the baptism service and enjoy the water park! The only thing that could make that night better is ice cream, so we’re asking all who are willing to bring their best home made ice cream, prepared ahead of time and in a cooler with you. If you’re willing to provide a churn of ice cream and a serving spoon for it, please sign up here. We will provide bowls, spoons and napkins.
Each school year there are many families in our local community that cannot afford school supplies for their children. This year we want to encourage your family to BE THE CHURCH by supplying at least one backpack to a child in need by partnering with one of the schools in our area. More information will be coming your way on August 3rd.
Cedar Creek West will be hosting an indoor YARD GIVE in partnering with the Aiken Family Y’s Fit 4 School event on August 9th from 10:00am – 2:00pm! What is a yard give? Think yard sale but everything is FREE! This is a great outreach opportunity as over 2,000 attended last years event.
Here’s 3 ways to help us BE THE CHURCH:
1. Donate items for the yard give. Items may be dropped off at the Cedar Creek West office starting August 4th
2. Help sort & organize donated items during the week of August 4th-8th.
3. Serve during the yard give on August 9th.
For more info or to help organize & serve, contact Lori at 803.392.7053 or firstname.lastname@example.org
On August 17th, our Centerpoint area (for middle and high school students) will gather again at the West Campus, using the Aiken Family Y Water Park for the Back to School Bash, starting at 6:00. This is a church-wide event for all Centerpoint students to celebrate the beginning of a new school year. There will be food, games, fun and a great time had by everyone. For more information, please contact email@example.com.
Check out this video to see how we, as a church, are impacting children in our community.
While it may seem like there are very few things we can agree with our students on while in the middle of these tumultuous teenage years, we probably all have a similar goal in mind for our families. We want to be functional. We want to be healthy. We want to do everything we can to set ourselves up for success. And this may require some hard work—on everyone’s part. But, as parents we should be leading the way here.
So, as you get a glimpse into how your family is changing and evolving, sit down and ask yourself the following questions, taking the time to be introspective and answering honestly—as difficult as that might be. Then sit down with your teenager and ask them the specified questions that follow.
1. How can you learn not to be reactive but to take a step back and get some perspective on the tension and issues within your family?
2. What can you do to help your children see a patient and in-control parent in the midst of conflict?
3. How would you feel about letting someone else into your family dynamics in order to bring the most health to your family relationships?
4. Who would you consider to be trustworthy to confide in about your family and the potential issues and struggles you face?
5. Are you opposed to seeking outside counsel from a pastor or Christian counselor? Why or why not?
1. Think about some families that you know and enjoy spending time around. What makes them comfortable and fun to spend time with? Try to share a particular experience that you’ve had with this family.
2. What are some things you have seen or experienced this family do that you admire?
3. What are some things that you would enjoy doing together with your own family?
4. What are some characteristics of you’re your family that you really like? Why?
5. How do you feel about the interactions you have with each of the people in your own family? Is there one person you have an easier time relating to compared to the others? Is there one person you have a harder time relating to compared to the others? Why do you think this is?
6. What is one way that you would like to see your family change and grow?
7. What can you begin doing this week to make that change happen?
After answering the previous questions, ask your teen to help you make a list of 5 family goals for the following year (i.e. have a family meal together once a week to connect and re-assess the above questions, commit to spending one radio/cell phone¬¬-free drive to or from school per week to just talk, research and set up a family counseling session, etc.).
To Read Rhett Smith’s entire article, go to http://fulleryouthinstitute.org/2011/06/managing-anxiety-in-the-family/
2 Things in this blog post:
1. Be a student of your student
One of the toughest aspects of the teenage years is the growing feeling our students have that the conflicts within their families are actually their own fault. And maybe as a parent, you hear that and agree that most of the developing conflict is the fault of your teenager. You may find yourself thinking if you could just fix them, things would be better. There is no doubt our teenagers have some attitude adjustments that need to be made and some issues that need to be dealt with. That comes with the parenting territory at any age. And while we are taking a look at how we can help them through their teen years, it’s also a good time to take a look at our own actions and reactions within our family to figure out how we can actually escalate or diffuse the tensions that arise.
As we experience anxiety in our own marital relationships, work relationships, friendships and even our own view of ourselves, it’s important to remember not to project these anxieties onto our children.
Because your teenager it not your best friend.
Your teenager is not a licensed counselor.
Your teenager is not responsible for the tension between you and your boss or you and your spouse or you and your other children.
As Rhett Smith (MDiv, LMFT-A), a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Associate, and part-time pastor to youth and families at Highland Park Presbyterian Church in Dallas, Texas explains in his article entitled “Managing Anxiety in the Family: Strategies for Changing our Relationship Dance” (fulleryouthinstitute.org), “If we really want to have healthy families, often we need to begin with the adults in the family taking responsibility for themselves. Rather than point the finger at our kids because they might be convenient scapegoats for our anxiety and conflict, real transformation lies within a family’s ability to do the hard work that relationships require.”
While this is solid advice, it can be really difficult to do! In the book Parenting Beyond Your Capacity, Reggie Joiner points out that one of the best tools to help you walk the journey with your teenager is to “Widen the Circle.” In other words, it’s important to invite other healthy adults into the life of your family; adults who are committed to your children and your family for no other reason than that they care. And this is also a great way to begin to develop processes for taking a look at how our family functions and how we can develop the most healthy family possible.
With this in mind, your student will be invited to participate in an XP, or experience, that encourages them to choose some wise people to help guide them through middle and senior high school. And, we have also encouraged them to include you in the process. Look forward to some more information from your student’s small group leader after week 2 of this series.
Our teenagers are dealing with so many pressures and competing voices. Our best bet is to set them up for success by being their champion and a safe place for them to unload their woes and worries. While this may not be an easy thing to do, it is important for us as parents to start with ourselves and look at how we play into the tension within our family relationships. We are the best place to start when addressing the health of our families.