Fighting for Intimacy in Marriage
Marriage isn’t a fairytale—it’s a fight. And not the kind where you’re trying to win against your spouse. It’s the kind of fight where you suit up daily to fight for your spouse. That’s the heart behind week one of our new series, To War and To Win.
Pastor Phillip reminded us that intimacy is the ultimate purpose of marriage—not just physical intimacy, but a soul-deep connection built on love, trust, and sacrifice. In Mark 10, Jesus points us back to the very beginning of creation to redefine what marriage is meant to be: two different people becoming one, mirroring the relational and triune nature of God Himself.
So why is intimacy so hard to maintain?
Because it’s not automatic. It requires work. It requires war.
Here are the three key ways to fight for intimacy in your marriage:
Recognize the barriers—Internal differences, family pressures, even kids and friends can all wedge distance between you and your spouse. Name those barriers and tear them down.
Serve and honor sacrificially—Love isn’t a feeling. It’s action. Do something selfless for your spouse this week with zero expectations.
Pursue each other daily—You didn’t “fall out of love.” You just stopped doing what you did when you fell in love. Start chasing each other again—leave a note, make a date, slow down the busyness.
This message isn’t just for married couples. It’s for anyone who values deep connection. It’s for those who want to reflect God’s character in every relationship. And it’s for a church family that believes fighting for marriages is worth it.
💍 Don’t forget! Our special Marriage WKND is May 16–18, including a Kidz Night Out, Centerpoint Lock In, Marriage Mentor Training, and a Sunday Morning Marriage Panel featuring real-life couples from Cedar Creek who’ve walked through the highs and lows of marriage.
Let’s not just talk about intimacy. Let’s fight for it.